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Mother’s Day comes every year bringing a full range of emotions and memories. I am a very fortunate mom. I have two of the best adult children any mother could receive. Yes, they are a gift that I cherish every day. I’m also lucky enough since they feel the same way about me. My son has been thinking about Mother’s Day for awhile and sent two hanging baskets for me to put plants in and hang on my balcony. He ordered them from my favorite website, that gives extra food to the shelter animals when you order from them. I never miss a day to click on their site though I have never ordered from them. I finally got them planted this week. He also sent an electric sander so I can start working on some furniture I want to refinish.

This one will be in full sun. The basket says "Believe"

This one will be in full sun. The basket says “Believe”

This basket will have more shade. Plenty of purple flowers there.

This basket will have more shade. Plenty of purple flowers there.

My daughter is taking me to my first ever, Mother’s Day brunch at my favorite German restaurant. No dieting on Mother’s Day for me. She gifts me with her time and company every week as well. That is worth its weight in gold. Brunches these days are quite pricey.

Mother’s Day always has me looking at the women in my life that mothered me. There were several that filled in the blanks. My first mother-in-law was one of those mother figures for me. She wasn’t all that fond of me since her son and I married way too young and she knew it. When push came to shove, she stepped up to the plate and was there to advise and console. She always said, “you can spoil a child with things, but not with love”. I learned so much from her including how to cook good, healthy meals.

This was a Mother's Day and the little bunch of flowers really wasn't enough.

This was a Mother’s Day and the little bunch of flowers really wasn’t enough.

The most important mother figure was my Great-Aunt Lucille. You can see that by the time this photo was taken, she had even mothered my mom enough to soften her and bring out her warmer nature. Aunt Lucille literally saved my life when I was a teenager in the throes of a meltdown. She taught me a different way to be in the world and how to loosen up just a little. She taught me about makeup and other things teen girls should know. I also had my young aunt to help with some of that but Aunt Lucille mothered like no one I’d ever known. I sent her flowers and cards once I was able, to let her know how much she meant to me. She loved and mothered many more even though she never had biological children. She was what you would call a “character” and I adored her. I wanted to be just like her and I really tried.

Mom and Great Aunt Lucille. Happy Mom's Day.

Mom and Great Aunt Lucille. Happy Mom’s Day.

So to all of you who are mothers, have mothers or still need to be mothered, Happy Mother’s Day.

“Being a mother is an attitude, not a biological relation.”Robert A. Heinlein

From my heart to yours,
Marlene Herself

Comments on: "In Search of the Moms In My Life" (7)

  1. Beautiful tribute to wonderful women, Marlene. I too have been mothered by wonderful older women who have enriched my life and loved me “just because.” Aren’t we lucky?


  2. How wonderful to have had so many great mothers in your life. Happy Mother’s Day to you, too.


  3. PS Your hanging baskets are gorgeous!


  4. Happy Mothers day Marlene, how wonderful to have such great relationships with your children. I’ve never said, but I don’t with my mom for very personal reasons. So mothers day always makes me a little sad. I make up for it by celebrating Fathers day. I’ve had many other women make up for it and I also love to celebrate them. Not everyone is cutout to be a mom, even when they have children. I can tell you were. Those baskets are going to be gorgeous.


    • Mother’s day is a tough one for so many people I know. I’ve never been fond of Valentines day myself. I tried to be the kind of mother mine was not. I think it worked. I had some great help along the way. My daughter will never have children either so it’s a bit hard on her as well. But a couple bloody mary’s sure made brunch celebratory. 🙂


  5. What a lovely post! (I click on the Greater Good web links, too . . . Animals, Breast Cancer, Literacy . . . they’re all such worthy causes!) Enjoy your beautiful flowers! 🙂


    • Thank you so much. I click on most of the links as well. It was the animals that brought me there even though I no longer have any. The flowers are pretty now. Hope I planted them so they survive.



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