Looking for answers to life's questions

Words are interesting. Our language gives us so many words for the same idea. Being a “wanna be” writer and a heavy reader, I love words. They are especially precious when you almost lose them. Many of mine wandered off when the Bells Palsy hit. Writing helps me find them again. Now I better understand how stroke survivors feel.

I have been looking for words in my native German to describe my new home to a 92-year-old friend living in Germany. When I’m on the phone with her, the words come harder because I have to think about them. The flow is long gone and many words I just don’t know. When using an online translator, I often end up with the English word because the computer can’t find the word I’m trying to use. How hard can the word “front porch” be to translate? It took a while, but an appropriate word finally appeared, I hope.

Ich habe einen neuen Ort, um zu sitzen!

I printed this picture to go with the phrase.

I printed this picture to go with the phrase.

Another way we use words is to describe ourselves and others. Have you ever been asked to describe yourself in one word? Hard to do since we are multifaceted humans. Mine used to be the word ‘kind’ or ‘caring’ or ‘compassionate’. Those are good words. I could have also used ‘pushover’, ‘amiable’, or even ‘gullible’ on occasion. Guess you could say I’m well rounded if nothing else.

My path, like my life, wobbles a bit. There will be readjustments along the way.

My path, like my life, wobbles a bit. There will be readjustments along the way.

Now I have a new word I use to describe myself. This house has taught me that in spite of life’s many challenges, the word ‘tenacious’, is the word that says it all where I’m concerned. Life hasn’t been easy, but I kept working to make it better. This house is a bit like my life. Good bones but there is a lot more work than expected. So do I throw in the towel before I’ve explored every possible option to make it better? Not going to happen. Like a dog with a bone, I will hang in there until there is no bone left. Even my sister asked me if I ever give up and sit down. I may sit awhile, usually for contemplation. That’s what I’m doing now. Thinking about which way to go next. There are so many choices.

Dug out the Camellia bush and 4 sweet neighbor boys leveraged this boulder into it's spot. There were roses behind the Camellia! Very tenacious boys too.

Dug out the Camellia bush and 4 sweet neighbor boys leveraged this boulder into its spot. There were roses behind the Camellia! Very tenacious boys too.


Weeds are tenacious too. We pulled a truckload of them and they will come back faster than those pounds on the scale unless I put something in their place. You’ve heard the phrase “Nature abhors a vacuum.” That’s why weeds do so well. So I’ve purchased some varieties of ground cover to plant around the stepping stone path. I’ll probably need a few more stepping-stones because my stride is shorter than my daughter’s.

There are real flowers and plants in there. Can you find them among the weeds?

There are real flowers and plants in there. Can you find them among the weeds?

We rented a stump grinder to clear out any remnants of the tree that once was and pulled all the roots that were growing under the house and driveway as well as carefully removing them from the water lines. That was one tenacious tree. I could fill the page with the work I’ve been doing but don’t want to bore you. Let’s just say, I’m bone tired most nights and falling asleep is not a problem.

This was challenging but fun. The roots went under the house, driveway and the entire front yard. All gone.

This was challenging but fun. The roots went under the house, driveway and the entire front yard. All gone.

It looked like so much fun, my sister had to give it a try. It was her truck so I had to let her.

It looked like so much fun, my sister had to give it a try. It was her truck so I had to let her.

My son has a similar word for himself. He uses ‘relentless’. Sounds tenacious to me.
Do you have a single word that describes you? Have you ever thought of it?

“Patience and tenacity of purpose are worth more than twice their weight of cleverness.”
~ Thomas Henry Huxley

From my heart to yours,
Marlene Herself

Comments on: "In Search of My Word" (17)

  1. Your place is really starting to come together! Looking really good Marlene.
    I suppose the word most often I use for myself would be ‘stubborn’. 😉

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  2. I love that you describe yourself as tenacious! And I’m also betting that your new home loves you being so tenacious – and I feel it would also describe you as caring and loving. I believe houses are like us – we bloom and grow when shown caring kindness and even a bit of tough love to help straighten us out. So do they! You are laying the groundwork to make this home your very own and to clear away the detritus of the old. Your tenacity is paying off! It is wonderful to read this post and to know that even though you are exhausted, it is a good exhaustion.

    And indeed, you have a lovely new place to sit!

    I have never been any good at choosing just one word to describe myself! Therefore ‘indecisive’ ought to do – but I’m not generally. 🙂

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  3. I love your porch and your path. Things look like they’re really coming together, you tenacious tiger! You go girl. Hugs. Barb

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  4. Word pictures are great….I love the “tenacious” picture.

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  5. eyeclic said:

    Seeing you behind that stump grinder is inspirational. Great quote!

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  6. The Little Engine That Could, that’s you. Ka-Pow, look at you go Marlene. Seems like there’s always more to do than you thought, or it actually takes twice as long to do as you thought. But I’d rather look thru rose coloured glasses than have a defeated attitude. I love that you’re operating these yard tools and getting so much done. What satisfaction and pride you must have when you finally fall into bed. You’re neighbours must be a little freaked out, LOL. They better pull up their britches if they want to keep up! Way to go Marlene, I’m going to try and keep up too. xoxoxo

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    • Thanks sweety. I sure hope you don’t have to keep up with me. I thought your place was in pretty good shape. I told a friend that asked how I was, that other than chronic overwhelm, I was great. Most days I don’t know where to start and I’m so far behind in my reading and writing that I’m not sure I’ll ever catch up. Hope you vacation was lovely. Looking forward to hearing about it.

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  7. My word? Possibility. 🙂

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  8. I inherited my word from my grandparents, Stubborn, because I refused to ever give up or give in. I still like that word for myself. 😉 I can’t believe how hard you have been working, using a stump remover, wow that’s not an easy task.

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    • Thanks Lois. It wasn’t as hard as it looks. I watched a video online first to make sure I understood how it was supposed to work before renting it. I let my sister have a little of the fun. Stubborn is a good word too. I have it used in reference to me many times. They usually make it sound like a negative. I don’t think it’s stubborn when you are in the right or understand something others don’t. Many have called me a stubborn German. I take it as a compliment. My dad was from Missouri, the ‘Show Me’ state. There is a little stubborn in that too. 🙂

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      • Ah yes the stubborn German I’m German too. 😉 While my grandparents meant it in a negative way, I accepted the word with honor. Had I not been stubborn life would have been so much harder.

        Your stump remover did look fun to operate. 😉

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  9. Ich habe Deutsch gelernt in de Berlitz Schule, aba Ich forgessen meine Deutsch. I worked for a company called Siliconix who was later acquired by Daimler-Benz. I studied three days a week for about six months, and spent a few weeks in Germany. It was tough learning a second language without any exposure to it prior to 30. I’m impressed that you can still converse with your friend, even if you do feel you are out of practice.

    I love your tenacity! You’re putting so much work and love into your new home and it shows. I’m sure you’re exhausted, but physical fatigue is one of the best sleeping aids out there.

    Your weeds/flowers look pretty from here. Is the yellow flower wild mustard or something else? I put down cardboard sheets when I emptied one of my beds, to keep the cats from using it as a litter box and to reduce the flow of weeds that as you say will fill the vacuum.

    Hmmmmm…one word. Today my word is ‘blogger.’

    (Was that cheating?)

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  10. I’m late to this party but it’s so much fun I just had to linger with a comment. So much of what you say here reminds me of me, and even if you hadn’t suggested it, “tenacious” might well have been the word I chose to describe myself. I once asked my son why everyone thinks I’m so strong when really I’m a wimp. He said “because you’re so tenacious, and people tend to confuse the two.” Now I think tenacity is one facet of strength. I am so happy to learn you have that quality! It’s more and more needed as the years go by.

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    • It’s never to late to come to my parties, Julia. I’ll have one any time you show up. 🙂 My son always says I’m the strongest woman he knows. Even now at my advancing age, I can move appliances, all the furniture, or cut the carpet out of the entire house and remove it myself. Tenacity is under rated. If you want something done badly enough, you find a way to do it. What we lack in physical strength, we make up in pure bull- dogedness. I will wiggle and wobble furniture till I get it where I want it. So delighted to hear you have it too. :)))

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