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Monday’s child is fair of face,
Tuesday’s child is full of grace;
Wednesday’s child is full of woe,
Thursday’s child has far to go;
Friday’s child is loving and giving,
Saturday’s child works hard for its living;
But the child that is born on the Sabbath day
Is bonny and blithe, and good and gay.

This rhyme was first recorded in A. E. Bray’s Traditions of Devonshire 

This popped into my head this morning on waking. My mind had it wrong. It kept singing Thursday’s child works hard for a living. Since I’m a Thursday child I figured that’s why I push so hard and work so hard. The joke’s on me. I do remember thinking once when reading this rhyme correctly, that “the far to go” part had something to do with all the moving around the world I’ve done. It’s such a sweet rhyme, I think sometime my children were so fortunate to both be born on Friday’s. For them, the rhyme holds true. They are both loving and giving with tender hearts. Mother Goose, who this rhyme is attributed to, got it pretty darn close.

My son took this and sent it to me. He said this is what hard works looks like. Me sitting down on the job.

I was raised by parents that thought if you were sitting down, they would find something for you to do. If we wanted to just sit, it was done outside and out of their view.

I changed the oil, now help me up please

Working hard comes natural to me and I still do it though as I age, with much less vigor. My daughter bought a little sign for me that says “Don’t just do something, Sit there” I make her tired just watching me. There is a lot more sitting going on these days but rest assured, if I’m sitting, I’m still doing something. Reading your wonderful blogs, writing in my many journals, or doing handwork.

I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to sit and watch television without having my meal at the same time (yes, I know it’s not good to do that), have my laptop working or some kind of needlework to keep my hands busy.

Sewing and quilting is not as much sitting down as jumping up and down. You sew a seam and get up and press the seam. It keeps one from getting stiff from sitting. My motion tracking device reminds me hourly to get up and move just in case my knees don’t. Most days during the summer months, that’s not a problem.

There has been so much to get done that I have to make a list of priorities. My driveway is clear again so there can be no complaints from the management. Don’t look in my shed or under my beds though. Every day is “clear something out day.”  I reorganized my sewing room to store an extra board, and the top of my closet because the shelf was off its brackets. I so wish my organizing friend lived closer.  With all the work I have done, I still have far to go.

Slowly, ever so slowly the process goes

How about you, does your day of the week apply?

From my heart to yours,

Marlene Herself

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  1. Hi Marlene, you’ve accomplished tons around your home, rather sitting or standing or something in between. It is a process though, but I like that one day at a time attitude. Apparently I am a Wednesday’s child, so full of woe. Seems to fit my situation right now, but I hope that I’m not destined to to be sorrowful and in distress forever.

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    • Hi Deb, Thanks for stopping by. Sometimes I feel like a Wednesday’s child too. I think life is like the days of the week. We go through all of them for a while. Then they repeat. We just have to get past the hump day and go far away from the woe to the loving and giving. I’ve been there and it too passed. Hang in there.

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  2. I am a Wednesday child and will comment no further. I might have to write a book about my day someday. My grandma used to say “Idle hands are the devil’s workshop” and it drove her mad to see me lounging on the couch doing nothing except reading. I think I rebelled mightily against the insistence on busyness that went along with my gran’s Methodist rules. I reckon if I have 15 good years left the last thing I want to be doing is cleaning and tidying up. I want to play and write! That said, I do admire your gumption and get up and go but I’ll just sit and watch, if you don’t mind.

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    • I’m with you on that. As you see, a lot of my “work” is done sitting down. 🙂 My mother must have know your grandmother. I could sit and read (which I’m doing now) for hours since no one is watching. I love relaxing but the old programming makes it hard not to be doing something all the time. I can twiddle lots of hours away but I’m so ready to simplify my life so there is less of the tidying up and more just reading and writing. I’m not banking on 15 years so it’s time to get down to brass tacks. You have a good view of what is important. Thanks for stopping by. Have a wonderful holiday weekend.

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  3. I feel like a Thursday/Saturday combo. You do so much, you need to take to the time to relax and notice your accomplishments.I love the turtle!

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    • I feel like a combo too. 🙂 Thank you. I painted that turtle about 30 years ago as a first project. It was so much fun and was in my daughters room for years. Down the driveway seemed to be a good place to put a slow turtle

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  4. I have no idea what day I am – I don’t know if I ever knew it. I think I have a certain antipathy to that rhyme – I once knew somebody who claimed to be A Wednesday child and used that as an excuse for complaining about everything. I found it challenging having a counselling client who dead stop refused to move forward. ( I ended up declining to work with her)

    It’s nice seeing those photos of you hard at work – nothing wrong with sitting down on the job! As long as the job gets done who cares what the mode is? Your daughter is right though, sometimes it is just good to sit and do nothing. I was visiting today and my friend had her TV on, playing a YouTube thingy which was simply a roaring fire crackling away. It was actually lovely to sit in front of it and admire the colour and movement and listen to the crackles. I promise, I felt warmer 🙂 I was thinking I must get me one of them – but then I might never do anything 😀

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    • I take everything with a grain of sand. A rhyme to teach us our days of the week should never be used to establish who we really are. They are just meant to have fun with . I’m a Virgo, so was my mother, you and several of my friends. It’s fun to see what tendencies we have just so we can be aware of how we and the world sees us, but each of us is quite different. I would never let something so trite define me or my children. They would have been loving and giving had they been born any day of the week. It’s just for fun. Like me always finding a way to sit down on the job. 🙂 My son has a video of that fire and we had it on a great deal last winter and while he was here at Christmas. But you see what comes to my mind now when I sit or lie quietly. 🙂 Nursery rhymes. 😉 I looked up my birth date on Google and it tells you what day of the week it is. Just for fun.

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  5. I had to google what day of the week I was born. Ha! Monday it seems. Fair of face? Eh. I admire your ambition. I don’t have any…..anymore. I used to but it seems I used it all up when I was younger. I should get something that tells me when I need to get off my butt and move. I sit for way too long a time. Big hugs, my friend.

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    • You make me laugh. My knees usually tell me that I have to move. I can’t sit still too long so I make lots of trips to the kitchen. Hench needing the fitbit to challenge me to move more. Mother’s day gift from my daughter. My motivation is lagging too which is why I’m trying so hard to get rid of stuff I don’t want to look at or deal with anymore. I’d rather sit here reading like I am right now. I’m my own worst enemy and always creating more projects than I can accomplish. Hang in there, Jackie. it will get better.

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  6. I loved seeing the photo of you as a girl Marlene, though I wish we could see your kind face. It seems to me that you’ve worked tirelessly since you bought your house. I think twice now before getting down on the floor, as it takes longer to get up these days. I might be able to officially say I have a “trick hip”. You make it all look easy, though I know it’s not. I wish I were there too working alongside you. I get a lot of energy from the process of organizing. I know that makes me an oddball, but it’s always been true. I leave behind clients that are a decade younger than me feeling bushed, whereas I feel energized. It just means I’m doing what I was meant to do I guess. Now that your sewing room is in order, your driveway is cleared and Tech Support gathered the remaining belongings, you must be close to done. Does it feel close to you?

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    • YES, I am close to done!! I have 4 boxes of Dept 56 I want to unload and I’m looking at brand new rubber stamps, etc that I may never have time for and thinking about moving them on. The drill press is in the shed for his next trip. It was his dads so I’ll be kind and store it a bit longer. I do understand. That was a pistol to get in there as I’m sure it weighs more than I do. Clutter makes me crazy and I may be checking in to the sanatorium soon if I don’t get it sorted out. It weighs on me. Anything that energizes you is what you should be doing. I can do this all night. Have to make myself go in the sewing room. It’s not as much fun as writing and reading. I like making gifts but making it work just takes the fun out. I’ll show more of what I’m working on soon.

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      • I’m looking forward to seeing your work, Marlene. And I’m so happy to hear that you’re making progress. What is Dept 56? I’m not familiar with that term. I understand about the drill press. Is that the last of the large items he has to retrieve from your place? If so, you’ve both done really well clearing out. I think we all enjoy doing the things that help us feel engaged, relaxed or productive. I’m not very good at sitting still for long. I get restless and bored. If we’re watching a couple of TV shows in the evening, I’ll also be doing something else with my hands. Will you have a relatively quiet 4th or do people set off mortars like they do (illegally) around here? I feel badly for all the cats and dogs.

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      • Department 56 is a collection of villages and other collectibles. Like my fat friars at Christmas. They are large and take a lot of space and my husband was told they would go up in value as they were discontinued. He bought into it and I left a lot with him. I would donate them to an establishment that would want to display them at the holiday season and have as yet not tried to sell them. I think they are going at cents on the dollar. They will be gone before October to somewhere.
        That is the last of the big stuff for my son .:)
        I have hand embroidery that I work on while I watch TV if the laptop is not in lap.. 🙂 My 4th will be quiet in that I will be by myself, but there will be the noise of (illegal) fireworks. Won’t bother me though. I’ll sleep through it. We have a lot of cats outside and I feel sorry for them too. My company just left so I’m going to shower and relax. Have a great 4th with your family. Let me know how much fun it was. 🙂

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      • I’m glad you can sleep through the noise, lucky you. The mortars they set off around here, unlike the fireworks, make the house shake. I can’t imagine where they buy them. Thanks for explaining Department 56. I hope they find a good home. What kind of embroidery are you doing?

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      • Hand and machine. I’ll post on them soon. Fireworks are illegal here so what gets set off won’t be too loud until later. My son thought the idea of making fairy gardens with each house would be a good way to sell them. I think it might be more money out than I’ll get back so I’m rethinking it. I have a lot of Alpine Village originally bought for my mother and the original North Pole pieces. Date back to early 1990’s.

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      • Well I now know of at least *one* beautiful piece of embroidery. Mwaaaaaa!

        I just took a peak on ebay at the Department 56 pieces. It’s a vast collection, isn’t it? I agree with you though on the fairy garden angle. Have you checked the listings: (Highest to lowest priced)? https://www.ebay.com/b/Department-56-Alpine-Village-Collectibles/4032/bn_3123955?listingOnly=1&_sop=16

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      • I took a look at this and see a lot for sale at high prices but nothing sold at those prices. The Josef Engel Farmhouse was rare back in the 80’s. I have most of the pieces I saw listed for $229. I gave away the Childe Pond just to get it out of the way. No patience here. Lots of people selling, not so many buying. Better get outside, the sun is coming up. Work to do.

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      • https://www.ebay.com/sch/Alpine-Village/4032/i.html?_from=R40&_nkw=alpine+village+north+pole&_sop=16

        I wonder if you listed your pieces in mid-November if you would get more sales?

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      • That was my thought. Closer to Christmas. I list on Craigslist and my son has an Ebay account. I’ve been all over the internet hoping to find someone successfully selling these things.

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      • I’m sorry to hear they’ve lost their popularity. It’s all about supply and demand, isn’t it, no matter what it is? I guess you could try listing them at Christmas, and if no luck selling them, then send them on their way. I wish I was more knowledgeable about these things.

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      • I’m going to trust the Universe to find them their proper home. I’ve been thinking about you all morning as I wander this place and look at all this stuff. Still in a state of chronic overwhelm. Did some writing (journal) on it this morning. Changes need to be made.

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      • I’m glad you’re writing in your journal. I’ve fallen out of the habit again. It’s such a good one, too.

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      • I write every single day without fail at least once a day. Sometimes it looks like chicken scratching because my eyes are heavy and last night I wrote in the almost dark on the front porch. It was just lovely.:)

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      • It sounds lovely. I really like the idea of you sitting on your porch writing in your journal. I used to write every day as well. Perhaps as life simplifies again I will get back to it. I miss it.

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      • I do get it. Still trying to simplify even more which is why the journals are so very important. Sorry you are melting. Ours is on the way.

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  7. PS I’m a Friday child.

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    • Ha, I should have known. You are loving and giving in all capital letters. 🙂 I don’t know who took that photo of me and didn’t get my face. There are almost no photos of me younger. My husband was the one I was reaching for. He couldn’t get under the car. I was tiny enough then to do it. Not anymore though as the photos clearly show. I was going to title it “Denial no more” but then Thursdays child popped in and had it’s way.

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      • (((Marlene))) Thank you for saying that. I like the title Thursday’s Child. In fact, all your titles are clever and well suited to the post. You look happy and healthy in the photo your shared. I remember my slender days fondly. LOL I hit my mid-forties and the scale went went up and up (well I went up and up…the scale just recorded it for posterity). Here’s another hug (((Marlene)))

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      • Thank you, Alys!!! Always saying something to make me smile. I was doing pretty good at slimming down till I bought this house. Now all my energy has been going into it and not enough into me. Add to that the fact that I’m a stress eater and we have real troubles. I was always to busy to eat when I was younger and had kids. Had to be a better example I guess. Where did that young, thing disappear too? 😦 My vote is it’s the scales fault so I put it back in the closet. 🙂

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      • The closet is an excellent place for a scale. I applaud you. I’m a stress eater, too, and I’m not talking broccoli and carrots. I’m trying to drink more water and to get more sleep. THAT is easy enough to do. I’ve said it before: If I went to bed at 7:30 every night, I’m sure I could drop 20 pounds. xo

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  8. I’m with you, Marlene! Thursday child here. You always seem very ambitious to me. Keep it up my friend!

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  9. I am a Friday’s child which I always thought was rather nice! My Mum couldn’t stand me doing nothing either, there were always chores which she would nearly always make me do again as not meeting her standards. Did it make me try harder. NO. I stopped trying hard at all knowing full well I would have to do things again no matter how much effort I put in. I am a person who needs a lot of peace and quiet and time alone, and am much better doing things at my own time. Apparently since I read a book, some people need to verbalise their thoughts, that would be my Mother and husband, and some like me need to think them through by themselves. So nagging me does no good. So I have my carefully thought out to do list and quietly do things. I am always busy! Have a great weekend, doing lots sat down! Intersting post by the way.

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    • Thanks for the visit, Cathy. Glad you found it interesting. I meant to have some fun with this. I know what you are saying here. My mother also never said a kind word about any of the work and I don’t work for others, I do things now for my own peace of mind, and mostly in my own time. I had some extra hands here for a couple of weeks of which I took advantage. I too need a great deal of quiet, alone time. Which is why I now live alone. I don’t handle too much criticism well either. I have my own work ethic and my children have theirs. They both work in their own way. The kind heart is most important. You have one with all your thoughtfulness in your gifts and charity projects. That’s all that matters in life. Have a wonderfilled weekend as well.

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  10. I was a Tuesday’s child, although far from graceful, being the sort who could trip over a grain of sand. My parents suggested to me that the grace I was full of was the holy spirit, since the other was clearly out of the question! I wish I was closer to you, I’d come right over and help you clear and sort and pack and give away, it’s one of my favourite things to do!

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    • I was told by someone many years ago that I lived in Grace. I understood that to mean I was always being watched over. That I know for certain. Like you, I’m an active member of the klutz club. The poem was to teach kids their days of the week but it’s like anything that wants to put us in a box, sometimes it feels like it applies more than others. I think you spread Grace wherever you go with your kind and generous heart. I wish you lived closer too. I am looking for groups to donate things to at this point. I’d rather just be sitting here at the computer at this stage of life. Have a wonderfilled weekend, Kate. Thank you.

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  11. I hope it doesn’t apply. I am a Wednesday’s child.

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  12. Neat post, Marlene–and it certainly got people talking! You work as hard as anyone I “know”–and you have such a sense of purpose! I have a very hard time sitting still, too, and, if I am sitting, I always want to have my hands busy. I never knew what day of the week I was born but it turns out it was Saturday . . .

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    • Thank you, Kerry. It was meant to be a fun conversation. I’d like to just sit and read but I tend to create work for myself. Buying a house and doing the upkeep on it is a lot harder than when I lived in an apartment since I’m single. At least now many of us are checking out when we were born. 🙂 You are also one very hard working person.

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  13. I was born on a Saturday, Had to check on Google to find out what day for certain but I remember my Mother saying my Dad was not too happy that I decided to show up that day, as he had tickets for a football match, and had to cancel.. lol.. 🙂 So it figured it would be a Saturday.. 🙂

    Wow, lots achieved here Marlene, and your daughter is right, but I know what you mean, I am always doing something even when sitting..

    I swapped the Laptop for my knitting as a new project is underway.. As we have had nearly three days and nights of constant rain here, so no garden work been done except picking a some ripe berries and digging up a few potatoes .. 🙂

    They say too much sitting around is bad for us lol.. 🙂 anyway.. but when we do sit down, we are ready.. 🙂 for that rest..

    Love and Hugs Marlene..
    Sue xx ❤

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    • Lots of us were going to Google to find out our day of the week. This was meant to be fun I would so love to see some rain. We don’t get any during the summer months anymore. Haven’t for the last few years. I have to water everything so often and some of the garden actually has fried leaves from the last heat wave. I can’t go out in it. I’m not good at doing nothing but getting better at it each year. 🙂 It’s something I will keep working on. :))

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      • Yes the rain here has been a blessing, as we had a very dry month, and had to water the allotments for 2 hours everyday.. so it gave or arms chance for a rest…. And that is along time without rain.. Keep working on the Nothing.. 🙂

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  14. Such a great post, Marlene! I checked with Google and discovered that I’m a Thursday’s child, too! We have so much in common. It was so nice to see all the photos of you ‘in action’ over the years, Marlene! I’ve been doing some organizing this summer, too. I’m making more ‘white space’ in my life so that there is more room for creativity! I’m looking forward to a colorful, creative July… for both of us! ♡

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    • Thank you, Dawn. I have company this weekend so the creativity will be on hold till Monday, Tuesday unless I can squeeze in a bit. Thank goodness Google makes it easy to find that information. Who would have known otherwise. I was in my 50’s before I had a birth certificate. No one really remembered much other than the date of my birth since it was a home birth with no doctor. Good to know I have good company as we have far to go together. 🙂 Enjoy your holiday.

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  15. Since I’ve been born on a Friday that’s for others to decide 😉
    “Still cluttered, getting better ” could be my motto 😂
    Love how vigorous you tackle your tasks! And I also don’t like sitting in front of the tv and not do anything 😄 Sending you lots of energy to finish the job! Have a wonderful weekend!

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    • Thanks for stopping by for a visit, Sarah. It’s funny about clutter clearing. I moved here with a 26 ft truck not even full but still have more than anyone could need. I’m glad I’m in good company here. As an artist, I’m sure you accumulate a lot of things that inspire you. That’s part of my problem. I see the possibility in so much that I would have to live into my 100’s to get it all done. 🙂
      I’ve begged my kids to not give me gifts anymore but they seem to be deaf. And I’ve been a storage place for transient family members. I’ll go with your motto too. Have a wonderfilled weekend.

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      • That´s so true – there´s so much possibilities in all that clutter and stuff, I also have a hard time clearing it all out (although that´s exactly what I´m planning to do this summer 😉 ). I have dozens full of notebooks in which I jotted down all my future art plans and feel like you that I need to reach at least 100 years to get it all done 😀
        Although I see your point in asking your children not to give you gifts anymore, I can´t help finding it so sweet they do it anyway – that´s exactly what I would do too 😉
        A friend of mine is rather the opposite – her place is as scarcely furnitured like a very severe Ikea catalogue. And to be honest, I think it rather lacks some charme. It doesn’t even look as if someone is living in the place! I definitely prefer it the other way round. Give me clutter, if I want space and few things in between, then I´ll go to a museum 😉

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      • You make me smile here, Sarah! I agree with you. Was just talking to my Sister in law tonight about all my clutter. She loves it but my sister hates it. Anyone with a creative nature has a lot of stuff to work with. My sister doesn’t do creative things. I say my house is furnished in love. If you don’t like clutter make an appointment to come by and I’ll try to austere it for you but I probably won’t succeed. I have book cases and fabric everywhere. I’m sure the kitchen is in there somewhere. 🙂 I prefer the clutter too.

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      • That’s exactly the reason why I think people like your sister and that friend of mine can live without the clutter – they’re not creative!! Love your idea of making appointments in order to clean up a little before – I do the same 😂 And I’m we will find that kitchen of yours – and many lovely things to discover on the way 😉
        Have a happy 4th of July, Marlene!

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      • Thank you and you have a lovely 4th too.

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  16. I am not much on sitting idle. Have to be doing something at all times.

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    • Glad I’m not alone in this. I am getting better at relaxing as I get older. It’s hard when I have company and we are chatting to not pick up my needlework and start on it.I’m sitting here now trying to decide what job needs doing next. :/ Company is due here this evening for the weekend and I want to do some sewing. Hmmm. Thanks for stopping by. Have a wonderfilled weekend.

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  17. “Don’t just do something, sit there!” sounds fabulous. I love that. Where can I get one? I grew up with parents who were busy, dad with the yard and house, and mom with crafts and sewing when she had time. They did a lot, I now see. I often wonder how people who don’t craft or create something get through the day. I need to be busy and that keeps me sane. I am a Monday’s child, apparently fair of face, but I’m not sure how that applies to me. lol You have done quite a bit in your home. Looks very nice. Enjoy your company. 🙂

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    • Thanks for stopping by, Karenlee. My daughter does not craft but she did buy some material yesterday to make herself a summer dress. My son is more like me with too many irons in the fire at once. We are flitters. It’s just a poem to help kids remember the days of the week and something to for fun. I’m never going to be good at sitting and not doing. My guess is you won’t be either. I’m not good with clutter and there was and still is quite a bit. Slowly, the house is shaping up nicely, thank you. Have a wonderfilled 4th.

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  18. Marlene, this could be one of my very favorite posts of yours ever! You always make it look so easy with a smile! I admire you for all you accomplish and for the woman and friend you are! Hugs! 🙋

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  19. I love this post, Marlene! Yes, you still have far to go. Your photos inspire me to keep moving and do what needs to be done. And your words are wonderful, as always. Thanks for the poem- I haven’t recited it in ages. It was a favorite as a child.

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  20. Hello Stranger (well, actually I’m the one who has been absent).
    Here’s to Thursday gals, for I am one, too. It always amazes me when I visit your blog at just how hard you do work, and I love the sign that your daughter got for you. I’ve never changed my own oil. You are an impressive woman, Marlene.
    What I like even more, are the photos of you, but modern and not so modern.

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    • Ha, thanks so much. I was young once. Need photos to prove it. Can’t wiggle under a car anymore. 😦 I’m behind too. Saw one of yours and I’m heading that way ASAP. My daughter is a self proclaimed and proud hedonist. You won’t catch her working quite that hard. Except on her job where she gives 110%. Hope your 4th is a good one. I’ll be catching you soon. Thanks for stopping by.

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  21. What an inspirational post Marlene!

    I loved the photos – and yes, getting down is hard enough, but getting back up these days is well-nigh impossible!

    I looked it up, I’m a Wednesday’s child, but I don’t often feel like it, thank goodness.

    Well done on getting so much done! I spend so many hours working that when I eventually stop for a while, I’m happy to sit mindlessly in front of a good drama on the TV. So, very little gets done around my home.

    I love your tortoise!

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    • Thanks for the visit, Clare. I think Wednesday’s children just take life a little more seriously. Not a bad thing. We were racing the clock getting it all done as he only had 10 days and a full agenda. Wanted everything done outside before our heat wave got here too. I love to sit with a good drama too. I’m watching a lot of British mysteries these days but keep my needlework handy for those long sits. That tortoise was my first ever painting project in the mid 80’s and was at one time in my daughter’s room. She still moves like that. 🙂 Have a wonderfilled week.

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  22. Ah, Marlene, where to begin . . . I am a Sunday’s child, but never felt bonny and certainly was rarely ‘good’, at least according to others :-). Blithe and gay (in the original sense), generally yes, although as my life went on and took unexpected turns, I did have periods of discouragement and depression (partly due to inadequate nourishment, I now believe) Anyway, I do love the poem and don’t take it too seriously, like all things of that sort. Fun though.My sons were both born on Thursday, in the same labour room and I was in the same hospital room. Hard to believe, in a fairly big city.

    BTW, like you, I am a Virgo but I do take the placement of all the planets plus the rising sign, into consideration. I have Leo rising and four planets in Libra, so don’t appear to be a ‘typical’ Virgo. I’m not that tidy about my surroundings, happy in my ‘clutter’, although I do tidy and organize from time to time; a bit more often as I grow a bit older. Like you, I feel that ‘creative clutter’ is not really clutter at all, although it does drive the non-creative or differently creative folks a bit ’round the bend. I love strong colours for the most part, and both harmony and contrast, occasionally even dissonance, as well. My musical tastes are much the same, too.

    When I was in Edmonton, after the Lewiscraft chain closed, I worked for a time in a small antiques and collectibles shop inside on of our major department stores . One of the lines we sold was Dept, 56. When the owner closed the store, I was allowed to keep a few pieces that we had received broken in transit. They were Christmas items, as I recall. Nice to know you have some, too. I’d love to see a photo or two of the Fat Friars, if you ever have time.

    As to keeping busy, I think that teaching stems from when survival depended on getting one’s work done on time. In those days )and not so long ago, either; my mother’s mother, aunts and grandmother all had that lifestyle and so did my Mum and her siblings. My grandmother and great-grandmother knitted socks, tuques, mittens and scarves for the entire family. My great-grandmother spun her own yarn, and likely the yarn for the others to use as well. They did all the things my Mum did later as an adult and their families would not have been fed, clothed or housed if they and their husbands had not worked hard and learned to make every minute count. My grandmother died at 42, leaving behind nine children aged 2 to 20. Her work was taken over by the oldest sister (17 or 18 years old) for a couple of years. When she married (she did come back as often as possible to help the younger girls), the next three girls took over and so on. There were only three boys; the eldest helped their Dad on the farm for years, the second left home at 14 to find work and the third was only four when their Mother died. The girls did the housework, most of the cooking and baking, laundry and mending (and ironing with sad-irons, heated on the wood stove) as well as caring for the two youngest children. They helped milk the cows, pick berries and make jam, churned butter and lots more. Most of them finished school, too.

    Raising nine of us kids, my Mum grew gardens whenever she could (three of them at the last place I lived at home), canned fruit, made jams and jellies, baked ALL our bread, cakes, pies,tarts, turnovers, cookies (biscuits to my friends in the UK, Australia and New Zealand), baking powder biscuits, doughnuts, cinnamon buns and more every week. With eleven mouths to feed, a dozen cookies meant one for each and an extra for my Dad, who worked long hard hours in the bush or else welding in a machine shop. Two pies made dessert for dinner, and so on;. Mum sewed clothes for the girls often, darned socks and mended jeans, etc., cooked all our meals from scratch, made pickles, relishes and the like, too. She found time to knit for the babies when she was expecting. She did lovely hand embroidery and crocheted doilies from fine thread. She did most of the housework, with me for the main help, as in those days the boys helped Dad with the outside work. Later they helped with doing the dishes. In the early years, until I was about nine or ten, she did all the laundry by heating water on a wood stove, pouring it into a metal washtub and scrubbing everything on a washboard, then rinsing and hanging it all to dry on an outdoor line or two. In very rainy weather she often hung laundry to dry on a wooden rack above the cook-stove. She found time to read as much as possible, often while nursing a baby, She wrote letters to the editor and kept copies of nearly every one that was printed (most of her letters ended up in print as she wrote well and could be funny as well as critical). She wrote poetry from an early age and had her work published from age ten well into her eighties. We have clippings of those, too. When my youngest sister was four, Mum and Dad began taking in foster babies and occasionally a toddler or small child. She must have cared for two dozen or more children and kept the letters written to her by their grateful adoptive parents over the following decades.. Once some of the kids had left home and my parents had moved back to the country to live, she taught herself basketry, loom weaving, spinning and quilting. She joined the Women’s Institute and worked her way up to Provincial Convener for Publicity and did a great job of it, too. There was so much more, but you get the idea by now, I’m sure 🙂

    She wouldn’t have accomplished all that if she had been idle. She and her siblings learned early to make good use of time. I was more laid-back for much of my early adulthood, preferring reading to housework, although with the right motivation I did work hard, chopping wood, carrying water, caring for and training horses etc.

    I had a lot of time to think over the past winter and decided that i don’t want to waste any of the time I have left. I, too, have a long list of things I want to do, to learn, to create. It feels good to be up and doing again, although, to be honest. I was pretty busy these last few decades, now that I think back on it. But much of that was for others or at least was influenced by their needs. Now I’m ready to tackle my own list.

    In thinking over what you said above, I think what stands out for me is our need to create a balanced life; enough work to be happy and enough rest to be content. One thing I’ve noticed about myself is that while I’ll do most anything if asked, I am highly resistant to being forced. That began in my childhood (if it isn’t actually a built-in personality trait) and I have had to learn to let go sometimes and focus on the objective instead of how I am getting there.

    Marlene, this is probably too long for a comment and it’s pretty stream-of-consciousness, too, but I wanted to explain why I thought we were taught to never sit with idle hands. Like you, I rarely sit without handwork on the go and that was a blessing when I was companion to my Aunty for several years, two weeks on and two off, but visits in between as well. That’s how I managed to create all those crocheted blankets, if you remember.

    I suppose it sounds as though I think we should never take a moment to just breathe, but that’s not so. I find it important to have time to read, think and reflect and often to do nothing at all. As an extreme introvert. (shy, loner, misfit, all of that and more, according to our extraverted society; actually it’s a very useful and healthy characteristic, just not as common. See “The Introvert Advantage” if you are interested in a more positive take on our sort off character), I also need a fair bit of time alone; what I love most, though, is to have another person or two around, but busy with their own pursuits. I guess that’s why I’m so attracted to artists, musicians and the like.

    Well, this is almost a novel by now, but i’ll leave it as is rather than go back and edit. Hope that’s ok with you. And please don’t feel you need to respond to any or all of this. I find when talking to people via comments, I tend to express myself as if we were having a discussion over a few pots of tea or the like.

    Thanks for a n interesting and very thought-provoking post, Marlene. My favourite sort. Hve a great week and I hope it’s not too hot for you. It’s getting hot here these days.
    Big hugs ~ Linne

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  23. I too had to google my day as I had no idea. Turns out I’m a Friday! Loving and giving, I do think that’s pretty accurate although I’m careful who I love and giving, well I’ve had to learn not to give too much of myself.

    I really enjoyed reading this. We are a lot a like. I never could watch television without doing something else at the same time. My boys used to complain that I wasn’t really watching because I’d be stitching or reading at the same time. Then one day I commented on a play in a basketball game my son had on and he turned shocked that I saw it. I received no further complaints from my kids after that about my viewing habits. 🙂

    Since all the work I do is from a seated position it’s nice to see a few of you sitting down on the job. 🙂 Your sister is like many of my friends and acquaintances. They don’t understand how I can’t just sit and enjoy it. Always have my hands busy.

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    • I knew you had to be a Friday’s child. You are one of the most loving and giving people out there. Your giving can come out of nothing and the recipient will feel they have received a treasure. I get what your kids thought about your busy hands when watching TV. It’s mostly just drivel anyway. Ha, we do some our best work in a seated position, right? I had to look up my day too. Not sure why that poem popped into my head but sometimes the muse has to have her way. I just go with it. 🙂

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  24. You change your own car’s motor oil? This I can’t believe. I stopped doing that when the cars
    were getting too low to the ground and I could not fit under them any longer.
    Really get post Marlene. love it!

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    • If you look carefully, that photo was of a much younger version of me and lithe enough to get under the car. The husband couldn’t do it as he was quite ample. I take my car in for service now as I’m pushing 70 quite closely. 🙂 I have always worked hard and done things most “girls” wouldn’t think of doing. My daughter also learned to maintain her own vehicle, pound nails where needed and my son to cook and iron etc. We should all be self sufficient as well as inter-dependent. Thanks for stopping by, Eddie.

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  25. I was actually born on a Wednesday. My career was nearly unbearable most of those 26 years, but I’m having the time of my life now, writing, reading, exercising and spending time with the extended family. I think the ketotic diet and high intensity interval training have done the most to turn my mood around, though retiring early was probably equally important considering the chemicals I was breathing and the constant stress. So glad it’s over. 🙂

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    • Thanks for stopping by. Looks like the Woe years are over for you. I’m all for early retirement. We are meant to be joyful in life. If we don’t feel joy, do something else. 🙂 Constant stress causes illness. Writing restores health and the exercise and reading will help maintain it. I’m glad things are heading in a better direction for you.

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  26. Enjoyed your post… I’ve always had a hard time just sitting! I spent most of my life thinking I was a Wednesday’s child… and I truly believe it affected my life! Don’t know who told me that as it turns out I’m a Friday’s child. While I like to think I am loving and giving I actually prefer the idea of being a Thursday’s child. To me, having far to go, as well as traveling, means still having a lot to learn about life, and I like that idea! I think we should just all pick our own favorite day!

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    • I like your take on it. It is just a poem for remembering the days of the week but it does make us think. My sister always thought I was full of woe because I tend to be very serious and worried a lot. Like an Eeyore. 🙂 I like the far to go aspect of it too. Thanks for stopping by and joining in the fun. That’s really what it’s all about. 🙂

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  27. You’ve asked a question that will require some research! I don’t know which day of the week I was born. I don’t even know the day of the week Tara was born. Isn’t that funny? Based on the descriptions, Thursday is probably my day too. At least, I tend to react to life in the way you do. I eat in front of the TV too, because in my mind, it’s doing two things at once. I can’t give myself permission to sit and watch a show. I get so restless. My mother was much the same as your parents: if she saw any of us kids sitting, or even playing in a way that seemed unproductive, she would invent something for us to do. The way to get out of extra work was to do our own work, or to stay out of sight! Some days when I was really not in the mood to work, I’d scoot out the door at the crack of dawn, and hide in the forest all day long, playing. Mom didn’t mind. She just wanted us to be busy and out of her hair.

    I love the photo of you after changing oil – arm all filthy. What beautiful hair you had. Isn’t young hair just lovely? All silky and smooth, ha ha. Mine’s become quite curly and a little frizzy now, but I still like it. I’m glad your daughter encourages you to rest. You deserve to take care of yourself, and give yourself permission to enjoy shade, and to sit down.

    Much love to you my wonderful, active, creative, philosophical friend. ❤

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    • Just look up your birth date and the day of the week will be shown. I do remember that long hair and I so wanted it shorter. Mine has always been straight and fine which is why sometimes I have to have a perm for a little curl. I’m envious. I never minded getting dirty to do a job though. Not particularly girly that way.
      I was in charge of the other kids all day so if I was outside, it was to keep an eye on them. Now I get to go out and play by myself in the dirt. 🙂 Love to you as well and thanks for stopping by. I’ll send an e-mail soon. I’d better at least start it to remember what it was about. 🙂 Hugs.

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  28. Good job Marlene. Im a firm believer in sitting down and working in the garden … much easier on the lower back!
    I hope you are well 💛

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    • Thank you so much, Val. I am quite well, thank you. Heading back out to the garden in just a few moments. It’s been the loveliest day so it must be spent in the garden. I am still catching up with all of you who write everyday. Maybe more so tomorrow when the heat decides to toast us again. Hugs.

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  29. I guess my affectionate pet names for you, ‘Marlene-go-go and Vonderfrau’ are well deserved, haha!
    I’ve heard that poem before for babies, but never looked up my birth day-of-the-week. Apparently, I was born on a Saturday……go figure 😀 I always suspected it wasn’t Tuesday because there is NO grace happening on this ship. HA! I frequently sport a half dozen bruises at once with a story for each. “This is where I stood up into the cupboard door” or “this is where I was looking at you and talking but walking into the railing post”. I have a million of these.
    You’re a force to reckon with Marlene! I hope I can continue to get down and paint decks, dig gardens, haul rock and all manner of Marlene-ish-ness as I age. I love that you’ve learned to change oil and that’s a cool photo of you! I’ve never been afraid to learn something new or get my hands dirty. I think we’re the same in this way. Growing up with boys leads to all sorts of skills that some girls never bother with. While city living is far more relaxing than my life in the country, I haven’t forgotten how hard we worked to have a beautiful home and yard….good grief, I really wonder some days how we did it. Brut determination I think. Needless to say, I’m enjoying the slackers life 😀
    It warms my heart to hear you have loving children and they have you too. Keep on, keeping on dearest and I’ll do the same. Sorry it took so long to wander by…life….yeeeesh! xoxo K

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    • Thanks for stopping by as I know for certain your life goes at warp speed as well. Some slacker you are. You give them a bad name because I know you out produce most of us. Yours is artistic in nature and you are a value to us all. What would life be like without the Boom in it? Dull, dull, dull. That was a very, very old photo of me changing the oil. The husband couldn’t crawl under anymore, not that he ever could but he was excellent at barking instructions. I take it to the shop these ddays. I’m double the size I was way back when. 😦 But that doesn’t mean I don’t still get my hands dirty. Still trying to find time to write the post on the latest adventures. I’m easily distracted as you can see. 🙂 Yes, I was really lucky when it came to children. Many people I know were not. I always tell them how lucky I was they chose me to be their mom. I never asked much of them. Just be honest and kind. So far, so good. 🙂 I’m going to try to get a post done in the next day or so. The list of to-do’s is just waving a white flag at me. Have a wonderfilled weekend. So glad to hear things are working out on your (job) Ha ha. It was made for you. :)) Giant hugs..M

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