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Lucky 13

Growing up in our house was very interesting. My mother, it turned out, was very superstitious. No shoes on the bed for any reason, no black cats (or cats of any color) could cross our path, no walking under ladders and squeezing your thumbs could bring you luck.

At school, we learned more folklore superstitions. Don’t step on a crack, knocking on wood, throwing salt over your shoulder if you spilled any. It was much later that I learned that 13 was an unlucky number and Friday the 13th was to be spent under the covers hiding from bad things happening that day. Breaking a mirror brought 7 years of bad luck, winning the big side of a wishbone brought good luck and the list went on.

Scary statue

I have since worked my way through those superstitions one by one until none really apply anymore. The biggest being the bad luck of Friday the 13th. A number of years ago, on a Friday the 13th, I had a daughter. The last child I planned to have and of course in those days, we didn’t know what we were getting until we go it.

Moss grows on everything.

That Friday the 13th was my lucky day. My daughter was healthy and perfect. Since then, every time I pull the number 13 in a raffle, I win. Everything related to the number 13 brings something extra special.

Daisy umbrella dispels the gloom

Once again, my daughter’s birthday fell on Friday the 13th. This year we covered a lot of ground. First a trip on the MAX to the quilt/sewing show then getting off the MAX   (Metropolitan Area Express or light rail) for a little lunch and a big dessert with shopping in a couple of our favorite places. We had tea at the Japanese Gardens even though it was cold with on and off rain. It rained when we were inside somewhere and stopped while we were outside most of the time. My daughter is teaching herself Japanese for the challenge.

We always have a great time together now that she has grown up into an incredible human. She was an independent thinker (and still is) and a challenging child. She often tells me how grateful she is that I let her live through some of the stuff she pulled. It was her aunt that prepared me for her.

Tea t-shirt always a favorite. “I could say I love you more than tea but that would be silly talk.”

So, when I see a Friday the 13th coming or anything with the number 13, I realize how lucky I am. My perception has changed about so many things in life. I have two wonderful adult children, a sister I’m very close to and many good friends. I am the luckiest person in the world.

Did you know that Friday the 13th comes only once in some years, twice in several others and rarely three times in a year? Our next one is in July of 2018 and the next year that we get three of them is 2026.

How was your Friday the 13th? Are you superstitious?

From my heart to yours,

Marlene Herself

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  1. Lovely tribute to your family, Marlene. I’ve never been a superstitious person, so Friday the 13th has always been a normal day for me. The Japanese Garden looks beautiful! Kudos to your daughter for learning the language! Happy Friday!

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    • Thank you, Jill. The Japanese Gardens are quite peaceful and one of her favorite places to chill out. Casting aside the old way of being that mom brought along took a bit of work but my daughter helped me learn so much about history. My eclectic and fragmented education left a lot of holes that needed to be plugged. Still learning. 🙂 Thanks for the visit.

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  2. Happy Belated Birthday to your daughter and to you as her beloved mother Marlene! I too was raised with superstitions and as a young woman looked into them until I found my way through the mire. The whole unlucky number 13 is one of those set up things that grew wings and flew over hundreds of years – a bit like the black cat thing. 13 is a number aligned with the divine feminine – the lunar cycle per annum is 13 for example, in the old mythologies many of the major goddesses were associated with the number 13. The early church worked to expunge the sacred feminine and turned priestesses into witches, black cats into servants of Satan and the number 13 into the devils number. Later when the church turned on the Knights Templar because they had become too powerful they chose Friday 13th 1307 to eradicate them in a well prepared and expertly executed holocaust. The same day and date was also chosen in the 14th century by the Catholic church to eradicate a sect known as the Cathars who were considered heretic for their beliefs about Christianity and that women could be active church leaders, not just men. The reasons are forgotten and the product lives on as superstition.

    All this knowledge is available in carefully researched books and tomes published over many years. I was researching and reading in the 70’s and 80’s and some very interesting works were published back then. Dan Brown of pop culture fame borrowed many of his ideas from those works. The above is a keyhole peek at the history 🙂 So yes, enjoy all the good things that come to you from the number 13, it just shows you stand outside of common beliefs.

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    • I will pass on your good wishes tomorrow as the whole gang will be here and celebrate again. I accepted everything as a young person and did not question much until I was on my own. Of course my daughter is a huge history lover and has taught me so much about what you are speaking about here. I loved Dan Brown’s novels and the controversy they caused. My daughter studied the pagan practices in her high school years. I think sometimes, I learned more from her than from school. Thanks for the extra information. I learn more every day and that’s what I’m here to do. I will have a houseful this week. Hope you have a great weekend there. Giant hugs and keep creating. 🙂

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    • Pauline, that’s fascinating! Thank you for sharing this.

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  3. What a lovely post, and such a lovely outing with your daughter. You must be very proud of her.
    I am not superstitious although my mother and gran would often come out with loose snippets like not walking under ladders and not putting shoes on the table. Load of bollocks, as far as I am concerned, from a contemporary and non-religious point of view. Very very interesting to research the origin of that kind of “belief” (TheContendedCrafter’s response was fascinating!) but I can only entertain those notions on a humorous basis. 13 is an excellent number 🙂

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    • I think 13 is an excellent number too. 😉 Pauline, (the contented crafter) is quite knowledgeable on many subjects. I do find myself still reluctant to put shoes up on the bed but then realize I’m listening to the old tapes in my head. I was a very trusting child and now know better. 😉 Thank you for the visit. Have a lovely weekend.

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  4. Aww… this was a pleasure to read, Marlene. Such a nice tribute to your daughter and family. You are very lucky, indeed. Best to you, Marlene. 🙂

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  5. What a lovely description of your day. I’m so unsuperstitious it’s not true. A broken mirror is an inconvenience, black cats are very attractive and Friday 13th is just another day, in my opinion, but I think your version is perfect, with the gift of a daughter to celebrate.

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    • When you are quite young, you believe what the grown ups tell you. I’m glad I’ve learned to discern fact from belief. My sweet daughter has taught me well through our lives together. Her perspective is much clearer. I love cats in all colors now and I agree with you about the rest. Have a great weekend and hope the knee is healing nicely. Hugs.

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  6. What a nice way to celebrate a birthday, and you made the best of the rain because of course that’s what we get so often in the PNW. Superstition and the idea of luck- good or bad, is an interesting thing, and I think your comment on perception of things that happen has a lot to do with it. What might be great for me could be considered bad for someone else. Maybe superstitions are meant to make us think about what we want to believe and how we want to handle life. We can choose the positive, or go down the negative road.

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    • Perception is everything. I like the positive best. I think we have seen our last rain for the year. My daughter used the umbrella to shield her camera and keep it dry. We don’t melt. 🙂 Luck, as they say is preparation meeting opportunity. 🙂 Thanks for stopping by. Have a great weekend if you are getting one.

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  7. Wonderful post! Your photos are so lovely…the lush green of the Japanese gardens is a sight for sore eyes. 🙂

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  8. What a beautiful post. It is indeed a blessing to have a daughter, especially where you have such a strong relationship. And such a lovely celebratory day! We have a japanese garden not so far away, here in Cornwall. It is the most delightful place. Beauty and tranquility combined and the entire place is imbued with peace. Birthday greetings to your lovely daughter 🙂

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    • Thank you, Sandra. I’ll pass on the good wishes. It took us many years to get to this enjoyable relationship and I’m deeply grateful for it. I’m glad you have a Japanese Garden as well to enjoy. They are so peaceful. Even in the rain. 🙂

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  9. What a wonderful post about your daughter and the blessing of the number 13! Happy Birthday for your daughter!

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  10. Happy belated birthday to your daughter! I have always had good luck on Friday the 13th. I’m not very superstitious at all. I do believe in omens though. Strange eh? 😉 I love black cats. I’ve walked under ladders and stepped on so many cracks I lost count. LOL
    Hope you have a wonderful weekend, my friend. ❤

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    • I knew you would not be terribly superstitious, Jackie. I used to step on cracks on purpose. Mean, I know. I’ll pass on the good wishes. It will be an interesting weekend and week. My son and his ex will be here tonight. Lots of work going on. ;/ Hugs. Hope you are doing better.

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  11. Great blog! I love the way that family traits are passed on, don’t you? Your sister prepared you for your daughter……had to laugh. Enjoy your day .

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    • Thanks so much for the visit and glad you had a laugh. That makes me happy. Yes, that was one family trait that got passed on and I love it. I was well prepared. 😉 Have a great weekend.

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  12. Glad to read about good times spent with a special daughter. You are lucky, Marlene, but so is your girl. 😍

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    • Thank you, Karenlee. My kids remind me often that they know how lucky they are. Both have lots of friends with parents my kids are glad they didn’t end up with. Perspective. I feel the same way about my kids. Wouldn’t trade them for any others. 🙂 Have a wonderfilled weekend.

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  13. What a lovely gift, your daughter H. I’m happy to hear you had a special day together. Those Japanese gardens are *gorgeous*. I’ve always loved that style.

    I’m glad you’ve been able to shake off most of the superstitions you grew up with. A lovely post, Marlene. Hugs to you and the Lucky 13.

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    • Thank you, Alys. It was up on that hill close to the mushroom house where my sister drove us. Just too cold that day. So very tranquil even with loads of people braving the weather. More than anyone, my daughter has taught me that luck is a state of mind. I’ll pass on the hugs. Today is celebration number two. Tech support is here with his significant other and sis will be here as well. 😉 Have a wonderfilled weekend. Are your ears burning? 😉 Hugs.

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  14. Hehe, I’d heard many of those superstitions growing up, but you know, I never really paid them any attention. I walk under ladders, have a beautiful black cat, don’t think I’ve ever thrown salt over my shoulder and we were traveling back home on Friday the 13th – on the road.
    But it was sure fun to read about your mom and all her superstitions. And how wonderful to hear about your daughter and from what I’ve read about your sister and son, well, yes, you are so blessed! What a sweet family you have and I laughed when I read about how your sister prepared you for your daughter. Hehe.
    All the beautiful photos, for a moment, I thought you might have traveled abroad to Asia somewhere. When we do a Pacific Northwest trip, we’ll have to visit those gardens you mention here. And have some tea. 🙂
    Happy birthday to your daughter and here’s to lucky number 13! 🍀🍀🍀🍀

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    • If you get to the PNW anytime soon, let me know and we will have a visit! It’s gorgeous here. My son is visiting now too and we will head to the beach today. Have a wonderfilled week ahead.

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  15. Marlene, this could be one of my very favorite posts of your ever! The photos perfectly intertwine with your story. My family wasn’t superstitious but we always pressed our thumbs to wish someone good luck. I still do it! Have a good visit and celebration with everyone!

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    • Thank you so much, Sabine. I don’t remember my dad being superstitious but mom certainly was. I kind of played at it for a while then realized how silly it was. It’s turning out to be a good visit so far.

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  16. Lucky 13, for sure! Superstitions fascinate me–I don’t “believe” in them but find myself knocking on wood and throwing salt all the time! Better safe than sorry, I guess. You are fortunate, indeed, to have such strong family ties!

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    • Thank you for the visit, Kerry. Yes, I am very lucky to have a good tie to my immediate family. I knock on my head often enough and on occasion throw salt over my shoulder but somehow it has little effect on my luck. 🙂 It seems to be good luck all around.

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  17. What a beautiful post, Marlene. The pictures are so lovely! The Japanese Gardens look so peaceful. Sounds like a really nice day with your daughter, Lucky Number 13. 🙂

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  18. Hey Marlene! I’m not particularly superstitious. I enjoyed your version of Friday the 13th. How very lucky for you! Enjoy the gorgeous week ahead!

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  19. Looks like you both had a beautiful day, and to be honest with you Marlene, I can not remember what I did on Friday the 13th. Like you I was brought up with lots of superstition, Broken Mirrors the same, also seeing Magpie birds, One for sorrow Two for joy etc.. When I was at school I would look intently for my second Magpie, lol..
    Now I am just lucky to see a Magpie. 🙂

    Loved your pictures, and I can see the rain did not dampen your Day. Lucky indeed to have such a gift given on the 13th.. And what a treasure your daughter must be.. And to have such a close relationship.
    I smiled when you said your sister prepared you for your daughters independent ways.. 🙂

    My Daughter too, very independent from a young age, that has stood her in good stead as she is not afraid to travel to the other side of the world alone and back on what I call her spiritual quests. 🙂 Amazing how children can be as different as chalk and cheese. 🙂

    Wonderful to be catching up with you Marlene..
    Have a beautiful week and a belated Happy Birthday to your dear daughter..

    Love Sue ❤ xx

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  20. Not ever superstitious much but Friday the 13th did make me a little nervous if it coincided
    with a math test back when I was in University. As for now, like you, it’s rather a lucky day for me. Good things seem to happen ‘out of nowhere’.
    This is a wonderful post Marlene! Totally enjoyed reading it

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  21. Such a lovely post, and what a fun day you had with your daughter.
    Your comment about being the luckiest person made me happy. I could just feel the joy in your words.
    I also had to chuckle about all the superstitions. My family always dries and saves the “wishbone”. I went straight back to childhood when I read that 🙂

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    • Those are great childhood leftovers, aren’t they? Glad you enjoyed it. I am the luckiest mom in the world. I have the relationship with my daughter that I wanted with my mother and finally got late in her life. Thanks for stopping by, Laurie, now go get them. There have to be honorable men and women out there.

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  22. Belated Happy Birthday to your daughter, Marlene! What a lovely story and what a great day you two have spent together. The dessert looks delicious and I’m in love with the daisy umbrella and the Japanese tea set!
    I guess I’m a bit superstitious but like you try to overcome most of them. 😉

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    • Superstitions can be a challenge when you are brought up with them. I’m glad to be “mostly” shed of them. 🙂 I’ll pass on the birthday wishes. The dessert was one I indulge in only once or twice a year. Very special and decadent. We always have a great time together and she says I’m more fun than her friends so that makes me extra happy. It’s been a busy couple of months and I’m trying hard to catch up here. I thought I saw a post from you and looking through a few minutes ago.

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  23. I was born on Friday 13th, so have always got a little bit excited about it! I love that you celebrate your daughter’s free spirit. I have an independent thinker too. Life is never dull around her, and I feel blessed.

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    • Aren’t you Lucky!!! Friday the 13th is now a very special day even if it’s not her birthday. If you have an independent thinker you are blessed indeed. I have learned so much from her over the years that has helped me so much. Your day will come too if it hasn’t already.

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  24. Hi Marlene. just a quick fly by today hoping all is well with you, I just wanted to say I sent you a short email with a video link in it about Lions.. They are the same ones my daughter saw. Hope you got it sent it around Wednesday..
    I am off on a short break for a few days so will speak when I get back.. Love and Blessings your way Marlene..
    Have a lovely weekend.. We have SUN and its warm for a change.. 🙂

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    • I sent a reply on April 24. I did see the link you included but may not have commented on it. If it’s been lost, I can resend it. Enjoy your break. Weekend will be lovely here as we still have cloud cover and not too warm so I will spend the day doing fun things with my daughter and then do more yard work tomorrow. Sun has been in and out here and we are grateful to not have to run the furnace. Love and hugs, M

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  25. Lovely photos of your happy day with your daughter. Those old superstitions are hard to remove from our heads. In fact when I thought about it, I realized that there is no number 13 on our street. And that I have not seen a number 13 mailbox on any of my walks. Here’s one explanation. http://www.stuff.co.nz/business/9271508/Can-t-find-a-No-13-Theres-reason
    Isn’t the word triskaidekaphobia an interesting word? I can’t even figure out how to say it.

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    • Thank you for the visit. It was a wonderfilled day. That was an interesting link. I’m glad I don’t have to use that word. Why can’t they come up with something simple to explain a phobia of the number 13? I’m glad I’m no longer phobic. 😉 Have a wonderfilled weekend.

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  26. I love this post, Marlene. I grew up with some of those superstitions too!
    And your daughter sounds like a lovely woman. 13 has brought you luck! I like the thought that your sister prepared you for her.

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  27. I think your relationship with your daughter is so wonderful. When I feel short changed, I just think about what a wonderful dad I had and thank my lucky stars (is that superstitious?) that we were blessed with him.
    So, speaking of stars, I will make a wish if I see one falling. So there’s a bit of that ol’ silliness that sticks with me. I was thinking as I read along how religious ‘men’ of the past centuries really took advantage of people.
    Since we have two lovely and loving black kitties, I was going to scoff at the who idea of superstitions like that. But, April 13th, 2001 was a Friday, Jim and I were in Texas, marrying in a garden. The garden was unavailable on the weekend because it was also Easter and big events were planned. So we married on Thursday April 12th, 2001. So I stand corrected. Guilty as charged, LOL. I didn’t want to get married on Friday the 13th. After my first foray into marriage ending in a bad way, I was taking no chances, LOL
    Loved all your Garden photo’s Marlene! What a gorgeous way to spend the day ! Belated birthday greetings to your daughter too xox K

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    • I am truly no longer superstitious. We make our own luck and what on earth took you to Texas to get married?? You picked a better guy the second time. I thought I did too and got married the second time on July 4, 😦 I knew better but did it anyway because my arm was twisted. 😉 Happy belated Anniversary. I ended up very lucky with my daughter. There were years we were at odds with each other but somehow, it all worked out. Don’t know what I would do without her. Hugs. M

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      • Why were we in Texas ? We wanted to skip the whole wedding thing because I don’t think friends have to celebrate with you twice, also, we’d lived together for I think 8 years, LOL. Our friend Mark was living in Dallas at the time and so we called him up. He stood up for Jim and his girlfriend, stood up for me. We limo’d around that day and had a very special evening at the Aldolphus Hotel in Dallas. lt’s quit a special place. It was perfect for us. xo K

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  28. I love your writing, Marlene. As one of those bloggers who will probably never meet you in person, I am honored to know you via your blog. 😉

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  29. I had to giggle, Marlene, as it could have been words out of my own mouth (except that I had a baby on the 13th!!) I had myself convinced of these superstitions, and still there is one that gets me every time. I think it is because in my past, every time a black cat ran in front of my car…something bad happened…EVERY TIME!! So, I have to admit, that I have since found that I, too, like the number 13…and have even found luck in it. But then, I would also have to admit, that not more than a month ago when the black cat crossed my path, I stopped the car…backed up over the line of crossing…and moved forward again!!!
    (Oh…and the fact that after a trillion years I remembered that you have to life your feet off the floor while driving over the railroad tracks…and if you forget…then you have to stomp your feet three times!!!) How nice to know that there are antidotes to the curses!! 🙂 🙂

    Hope you are well, my friend. Sending lot of good thoughts ❤

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    • I’m glad you had a giggle. The 13th was bad enough but a Friday the 13th was really stretching my ability to overcome superstition. But my sweet, colicky daughter mad it worth the stretch. 😉 That moved me forward to abandon all the rest of my superstitions. I had a hard time with black cats too for awhile. Decided to bless everyone I saw and now they are just sweet kitties. No more problems. 😉 Hugs and love.

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