Looking for answers to life's questions

A Little Twist

I’m going to the end of my trip, then later when I get more brain power, I’ll get back to the trip in all it’s glory.  I like to be efficient and answer the questions just once.

Too much luggage Then we added one more piece.

We made it back to the States. It was a bit nerve raking as in the last weeks of our trip, the U.S. government decided that anyone coming back into the country had to have a covid test the day before their flight. Then we had to wait until midnight of that day to get the results. The rapid results tests were not cheap and they came to our cell phones by email. It took until 2:00 a.m. to get ours, then my daughter had to go onto our flight carrier’s site to post the results. Hence, no sleep for either of us.

After our test at 8:00 a.m., which was done next door to the hotel by the train station, we collected our luggage and taxied to an airport hotel with shuttle service. We had a lovely breakfast on flight morning in the best hotel so far. The Steigenberger turned out to be where many of the pilots and crew stayed. That’s a good recommendation to me.

This gnome seemed to like the airline staff

There was an unexpected mix up about who we were flying with so there was a lot of shuffling around and long shuttles in the airport itself before settling in to a tightly packed 10 hour flight. No sleep to be had there either.

We changed planes in Denver where we had to retrieve our own bags and recheck them on the next flight, go through security again and customs. We only had 1½ hour between flights. Denver is a HUGE airport and again I was grateful for the wheelchair assistance. A tiny person pushed me all over that airport as my daughter and another young woman who had to go retrieve her knee scooter for an injured foot followed us through the maze. I did leave that sweet, helpful person a healthy tip as we made our connection, where on our own, we would not.

Borrowed from my favorite, Mary Engelbreit says it all.

That’s where our new acquaintance parted ways. We were headed for Phoenix, bleary eyed and past tired.

The twist here is that while I was visiting with my son prior to our trip, we took the time to check out a few independent living options close to him. I was not seriously impressed with them but then reality set in. There was nothing “available” in my area of Oregon. The cost would have been unsettling. The cost of one by my son was well below anything else. It was ground floor with a door opening to the courtyard as well as an inside hallway; available immediately. My gut said grab it so my son wrote the check I left behind, just in case. I am now ensconced in my own small, two-bedroom apartment. I have an old sofa bed for the moment that has been passed around the family for too many years but it’s a start. There are no fancy amenities but I’m 3 blocks from my son with everything I need close by. I’ll be in the Arizona mountains instead of Oregon. A move I never expected but now that it’s done, feels like the right choice.

I’m hooked on these words

Next comes the retrieval of my personal things from Oregon storage. My daughter is once again, getting to pursue her own trajectory in life with the same mixed emotions I’ve had. I’m the fourth senior my son and his wife have to look after. They have my apologies. This could get interesting once jet lag and altitude adjustments are made.

Happy New Year one and all. It’s going to be a doozy.

Have you ever made a decision that twisted your life around?

From my heart to yours,

Marlene Herself

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  1. Welcome Home!

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  2. Welcome back, my friend! I have made a few decisions that have twisted my life in directions I never would have dreamed of. That’s one of the things that is exciting (when you aren’t dead tired! lol) I think you have made a wise decision in staying close to your son. As for your daughter….good luck in whatever she chooses to do! ❤

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    • She is way too young and unencumbered to be tied down right now to an aging mother. It’s time for her to fly. My son is happy to have me close. (3 blocks) and still we each have our own space. I imagine you never expected to end up where you are either. Some times it’s just right. Hugs my friend. Thinking of you always.

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  3. Wow huge changes but it sounds like you have gone with your gut and intuition. If your son and his wife have looked after three other seniors, they will do a grand job of assisting you.
    I feel that this year is going to be a doozy too, but we will face whatever life throws at us as we always have done! Head first!
    Take care and glad you made it home safe. It sounds like you got through the airport dramas by the skin on your teeth!

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    • Yes, I looked at all the facts, weighed them and my gut/intuition agreed. This place will be perfect. My DIL has her dad, then her mom. (divorced and living 3 doors apart) and a few weeks ago picked up dads younger brother and brought him up. They have been very busy attending to way too many needs. I’ll try hard to be not so needy. 😉 After what that young lady did to get us on our flights in time, she deserved ever bit of the tip and then some. It felt very much like the skin of our teeth. I’ll be catching up soon. Thanks for the visit, Amanda. Hugs.

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  4. So glad to know you are back in the USA, and into a new home-even though it may not feel quite like home yet I have no doubt you will make it yours soon enough once you get some familiar things around you. Be patient with yourself in this process and somehow when things happen like that, sort of hurried and definitely not what you probably planned, I think there’s a reason. Once you settle in Marlene, I suspect it will all make sense. Welcome home!

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    • I think you are right, Deb. I questioned the feasibility when I first saw this place. Very unappealing. But all of a sudden, something said grab it so I did. I think it will be perfect in the end. I have my own space and the kids are only 3 blocks away. I am taking things very slow. My body refuses to allow more right now. There are so many more important things at work here that getting my “things” slides way down the list to not noticeable. I think I’m getting a bit spacey now. 😉 Thanks for the welcome. Glad to have made it. Hugs and hope your weather is getting a bit better.

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  5. Okay, I wasn’t too clear on which state is where so I had to google Oregon and Arizona. Now I know! It sounds like you made an excellent decision on so many levels and, once you’ve rested up, the settling process will begin. I’d love to see pics of your Arizona mountains…. Lots of love to you in your new home xx

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    • I felt very strongly that it was the right decision on so many levels to come here again. Never thought I would when I left in 2010. That old phrase, “never say never” applies here. I’ll be getting more photos soon. First I have to find my brain. I may have left it at the Denver terminal. 🙂 What a ride that was. Arizona and Oregon are like night and day weather wise. Thanks for stopping by. I’ll be popping around here soon. Hugs.

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  6. it’s amazing how things happen/fall into place/open up at just the right time. of course they’ll be an adjustment period, but it sounds like the right choice, all things considered. it will be your home in no time and now you and your son and family will have less worry on your plates. best to you on your next chapter

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    • I absolutely agree, Beth. I watch for signs/synchronicity or whatever you want to call it. I am quite fortunate that my son stayed on the lookout for this one perfect apartment to be ready for me. He’s only 3 blocks away and once I acclimate, I can walk there. I’m ready to write that next chapter and add some zip to it. Thanks for the visit.

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  7. Sometimes life just comes out right. I never in a million years thought I would be living where I do now, and wasn’t it just the right place for me to be, in the same town as my son, with the other two not so far away. Welcome to your new home and the start of a new adventure. It will soon be home when you get your own things about you. Xx

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    • You are so right, Cathy. I always look for the synchronicity in things and this just yelled out “do it”. My son is 3 blocks from here and once I’m acclimated, I can walk there. Right now just walking down the hall is a major event. I’m glad you have your boys and their families close too. My son works with his wife so their schedules have some flexibility to them my daughter has a harder time getting. It all worked out perfectly. Thanks for stopping by, Cathy. Keep taking care of yourself.

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  8. I’m happy to hear you’re settled into your new place, Marlene. Downsizing is something no one wants to do, but as we get older, I think it’s necessary. I’m thankful that you’re near your son. I have no doubt that you’ll make it cozy and in time, it will feel like home. Welcome back to the States!

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  9. This was a twist–the best possible one! You’re in your new home!! Once you’ve recovered from your trip, you’ll have put all your special touches on it in no time. Does two bedrooms mean you’ll have a craft room for your projects?

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    • You have it exactly right, Liz! I’m going to be sleeping in the smaller room, keep the sofa bed for when guest come and use the biggest room with the walk in closet of sewing and crafts. So many projects already in the works even without getting my stuff from Oregon. As soon as an apartment became available, my son was here to put my deposit on it. I’m still waiting to hear from the place in Oregon. Housing is tight these days. It’s perfect for me at this stage. I’m excited for this next chapter. 😉 Thanks for the visit. Catching up soon.

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  10. Marlene, yikes! What a mammoth of a journey home — I felt exhausted just reading about it! And wow, in the midst of this you made such a momentous decision – well done! At the strangest moments, the truth finally comes to one and what was best for you. I am glad you’re settling into your new home. I bet you look forward to seeing your things once again and moving in proper. I am sure your son and daughter-in-law are happy that you’re living close to them. Every relationship goes two ways and you have so much to give them as well. Take care xx

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    • It made me tired writing about it as well. Don’t remember ever being so sleep deprived. I’m making up for it now. I can miss the stuff a while longer. I will appreciate it even more when I finally get it here. The kids are very good to me and I truly appreciate it. Thanks for the visit.

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  11. Marlene, it sounds like you’ve had a grand adventure, and have landed in a good place. I have a brother and sister in the Phoenix area, and Lonny and I are considering Tucson as a place to retire. The desert has its own unique beauty. Best to you, my friend!!

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    • I think I agree with your assessment, Missy. We are north of Phoenix in the mountains. It’s where Phoenix and Tucson come in the summer. 😉 I live here for 12 years before going to Oregon. It was a hard decision but I think in the end, the best one. I like to be close to an airport and here we are 3 hrs away. It is working out just fine.

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  12. I am so glad you made it back safe and sound, Marlene! How wonderful that you found a place and had somewhere to come back to. Arizona is a state we travel through at least once a year, so maybe we can plan a little visit. Get settled and I’ll look forward to reading more about your trip and touching base. Take care!

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    • Thanks so much, Jan. We are glad to be back to the familiar too but it was well worth it all to make that trip. Hope we can get together if you come through. Which part to you go through?

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  13. Hello! I’m glad you’ve made it back safe and sound. Now to turn your new spot into a home. A few (!) books, a few pictures, a cup of coffee, some sewing… I know you’ve got this. How are you managing with the air/lack of humidity/altitude in AZ? Take your time, rest up, we’ll still be here when you’re ready and recovered from that mammoth expedition. Hugs xxx

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    • Thanks, Kate. It will take a lot of time to recover and acclimate. It’s taking it’s tole and the humidifier runs every minute I’m inside. Moving very slowly. It’s starting to feel like home with a piece that belonged to my mother and one that belonged to my MIL. That’s what I’m sleeping on. I made my first cuppa today out of a one cup maker I bought 10 years ago when living with my son in CA. Bits and pieces and a soft place to sleep is all I need now. My stuff will stay in storage for at least another month, I think. It’s ok. Makes me appreciate what I had more. I’ll be checking in on everyone here ASAP. I lived here for 12 years until I left in 2010.

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  14. Welcome home lovely ! What a whirlwind these past few months have been. So it’s Arizona for you then. Congratulations on settling and bonus to be near your family. Are you at all concerned about the political atmosphere there? I know Joe B won by a slim margin. Will your meals be communal or can you cook in your apartment? I could never eat half the stuff they serve at my MIL’s home, meaty offerings. Glad you arrived safely . The travel day is always misery isn’t it. Well I’m sure you’ll have fab memories, once you recover from the jet lag xK 💗💗

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    • Well, I had to bring one more vote for old Joe, didn’t I? 😉 I lived here for 12 years before and other’s get to be as they choose.

      They do have communal lunches if you choose to join in. I prefer to make my own in my apartment well outfitted for cooking. Or the kids will invite me over the 3 blocks from here to join them on occasion. I might even cook for them on occasion too. The food here looked a bit gloppy. I can take my lunch and visit if I find someone to visit with. Otherwise I might just get a book written this year. 😉 Jet lag is a piece of cake compare to altitude adjusting. I’m on a perpetual drunk without a drink. I’ll get pictures posted soon. It’s still kind of stark and grim.

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  15. Welcome back home, Marlene, in these Covid-crazy times!

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    • Thanks, Tom. I was truly scared much of the time but managed to come back with a negative test so we did something right. Thanks for stopping by.

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  16. So glad to hear you’re back and without too many hitches (unless you count the hairy times). This time before your things arrive will give you the chance to plan where most of it will go, so that’ll be nice. Better than someone moving your stuff in and putting it wherever and then having to figure things out . . . It’s so nice that you have a two bedroom, so can have a craft room. I’d be sleeping in the smaller room, too lol. Take care, dear friend.

    I’m also glad you like to be near an airport. Sounds like the adventurer hasn’t hung up her walking shoes yet . . .

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    • Every day is an adventure in my little world, Linne. I’m letting the place tell me what it wants and the things I need appear. Today I rescued a table and chairs from the in-laws garage. It was going into a yard sale. I will photograph it tomorrow. Slowly, what I need is becoming available. I’m being loaned a desk as well. Life becomes magic if you let it. I’m 3 long hours from an airport here but the kids go down to Phoenix often enough that I’ll have to manage somehow. I was 25 min away in Portland. Hope you are staying warm. I’ll post pictures of this place when I write about Stuttgart. There will be room there.

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  17. This was a good idea to sum up like this now. Takes care of the unanswered questions when you choose to go on with the story of your trip. This all sounds like it went very well with the move. But why the 4th senior, curious minds want to know. (No need to answer if you don’t want to!) Your place does sound idea. I really think being by family and not having more home than you can care for are two of the most important things that go into choosing “senior housing.”

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    • Thanks, Luanne. I was hoping that it would work out this way. My son’s FIL moved up when he decided Calif retirement didn’t suit him anymore and moved 3 doors down from his daughter. Then his ex DIL’s mother moved up after her retirement. She is now in the house 3 doors from her ex. Last month FIL’s brother sold the old family home and moved up and in with his brother. That made 3 of her family. Now I’m here in independent living and #4 in the troop of seniors. The guys still drive. Neither of us women do. Lots of chauffeur service for the kids. This is ideal. I’m 2 or 3 minutes away but have my autonomy. It’s starting to get cozy. Just picked up a table and chairs from the FIL since he has his mother’s set from the old family home. We are looking at ages 80, 77, 75, 73. Just a pack of old people. I couldn’t afford or find an available place in Portland. So here I am. It’s actually perfect for me.

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      • It does sound perfect. So convenient to have your son so close and yet to have your place to yourself. That is ideal to my mind. For myself, too.

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  18. I believe I’m going to be making some decisions on my future real soon, once I’ve got my health on an even keel again. But also some family (my late brothers’ daughter) came back from Aussie (permanently) and they don’t know what has been happening for me in regards to my sisters family here v me! Next week they will be informed, when they come to visit…because it’s not truly a secret but when you’ve not living in the same country, it’s harder to tell…

    Sounds like you will need a lot of strength yourself to deal with everything that is unfolding but at least you came back to a roof over your head, and close to more family.

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    • Thanks for stopping by, Catherine. This is the last place I expected to find myself but my instinct just yelled to do it. I count my blessings right now. I’m so very lucky in so many ways. I hope things go better for you soon.

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  19. What a ride you had, and will have. I LOVE that Book of Opportunity. That is really the way I look at each new year, each new “chapter” I like to call it, when my life takes a distinct turn. I have made SO many decisions that turned my life around. I guess the important thing is which decisions I decide to think about, and how I decide to think about them. One of the most important best things was right at the beginning, when I signed my life away to the U.S. Air Force for the opportunity to get out of my tiny town and independent of my extremely poor family. That drastically changed my trajectory, but it had to be done, as there was absolutely no other way to get out of town for me, other than hitchhiking, I guess.

    I wish all the best, meaning the smoothest possible transition, for both you and H. Gosh what big changes. I’m so relieved all the testing worked out. I mean, I knew you got home safely, but at the time I was worrying for you, hoping the paperwork would all be deemed acceptable.

    It sounds like you are adjusting to the altitude and the dry air alright. It can only get better. I can hardly wait to come visit in March. I need to be in Phoenix March 14-18, but I’m still not sure when I’ll come see you. It might be after Phoenix, rather than before, but I’ll let you know when I do. Make sure you ask me to bring stuff if you need stuff at that time. I’ll check in with you.

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