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I had originally thought to visit Friedrichshafen with my daughter as part of our journey. My grandparents lived there for a great portion of their lives after the war was over. I was able to visit them on occasion while we were living in Aschaffenburg.

Something pretty to look at.

My Opa sent me home in a variety of ways as mom had 3 more needing care. Once, I was packed into the cab of an 18 wheeled truck with a trusted driver. Another time they put me on the train with a tag as to where to get off. I got scared and got off too soon but someone put me back on the train and I ended up where I belonged. Oma took me to market and taught me to read German when I could visit.

My mother’s parents

Fear of the weather quickly overtook nostalgia. They were expecting snow. The Bodensee area gets darn cold so I convinced my daughter not to risk the rental car. We opted instead for a city I’ve never visited. Stuttgart. It put us back on track to make it to Frankfurt in time for our flight home. I tend to worry more than I should.

am Bodensee with a small tour vessel

2006 trip to Friedrichshafen

The saying goes if you can’t say anything nice about something or someone, don’t say anything. I’ll just say the shopping center right down the street from our hotel in Stuttgart was a godsend. We got our walks in and found lunch and dinner. Since my daughter worked into the night hours to coincide with her office hours in the states, I usually started my day with lunch. She ate what they brought her for breakfast. I was being contrary (I can get that way) and refused their choices, happy after seeing it, to forgo that meal. Even with our vaccine certificate they were the only place that refuse us entrance to the breakfast room.

They use a lot of paper bowls for their take away salads

We couldn’t go into any stores because we didn’t have the QR code on our vaccine certificate from the states. Without it we couldn’t be seated for a meal or go inside a store. We could pick up take away food and walk around the three levels all day, fully masked. We didn’t dawdle. Each day, we walked down the hill after a sweet young woman personally took us to find the hidden entrance to the shopping center. We made the circle of all three floors, got our food and mineral water supply, then headed back to our room.

I wish I’d had cards with this on it for some people. FB photo

We did try to do laundry there but there was no parking available. I found a tiny fabric shop that was mostly for home decor but since we had paid for parking, I purchased a 50-cent pack of needles for embroidery.

I usually like to comment on how helpful the staff is at a hotel in helping us find our way around a new city. I won’t be doing that here. I found the whole city uninviting. We took no photographs and we were not allowed to ride public transit according to the hotel manager.

Have you ever visited a new place you never want to see again?

“One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.” ~ Henry Miller

From my heart to yours,

Marlene Herself

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  1. How disappointing And frustrating, Marlene. Travelling in COVID times is not easy! I am thankful for those who understand that we are all in this together, rather than following the rules and creating a them and us mentality. It brings out the best and worst in people. 💕

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    • I saw the distaste in the managers face the moment we came in the door and presented our passports and vaccine certificates. We came in masked so there was no excuse for that kind of behavior. The same chain hotel in Cologne behaved in a more appropriate way. Of all people, I have every reason to be careful and mindful of others. I might send a note to the company itself when my quiet mind is present. Thanks for the visit, Val.

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  2. Bright spot I suppose, if you want to look for one, is that this came towards the end of the trip and not the beginning. I don’t find this surprising though, as you know Covid here in the states is handled so differently from place to place. How is the settling going into the new place? Is your stuff from Oregon headed your way yet?

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    • There is a VERY cavalier attitude about covid here so I’m trying harder to stay safe. The county I’m in has flatlined with no new cases in over a week. That’s when people stop being careful.
      My stuff will not be on the way for a while yet. My daughter is getting her things out today to move into her new apartment and then we can assess what will be done with mine. In the meantime, I’m making do with borrowed and second hand items.
      Then next stop on our trip made up for this one in spades. Thanks for the visit, Deb. How is retirement adjusting to you. 😉

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      • So far so good Marlene. I’m still just cruising along, one day at a time with no definitive plans. Covid makes volunteer opportunities difficult right now so those plans are on hold. I’m taking an interest in housing issues in our little city- as in more available and affordable senior housing so I have my eye on the current city planning to see where things go.

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      • I’d like to get in the middle of that here too as soon as I can remain upright. This altitude is having it’s way with me. 😉 This mountain is a huge contrast in affordability. Do you think this pandemic will end before the next extinction? ;(

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  3. I’m so sorry that the city didn’t offer much of a good experience. Sometimes it can be like that, sadly.
    Some people enjoy to be unpleasant. Perhaps it makes them feel “better”. Maybe they’re unhappy and they want others to be too 🙂 I don’t know.
    I understand your worry when traveling, there’s always a little nagging voice that says not to be too relaxed until you get to the destination….
    How are you feeling in the new home?

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    • That city offered a great contrast so I could appreciate even more the other experiences. I continue to be vigilant but have always believed that I could walk through a crowd of covid and not get it. I tend to have a very strong immune system. I don’t get flu shots and have never had a flu. No colds or anything like that. I get stuff from stress that can’t be fixed. One day, I’ll learn to chill. 😉 I am starting to acclimate to the altitude and slowly make this place a home. It will take time but this gypsy knows how to manage. 🙂 Take care of yourself and enjoy your days. Thanks for stopping by,

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  4. What a beautiful photo of your grandparents. I’m sorry you didn’t get a chance to visit the city they lived in, but it probably felt good to be closer to your departure city anyway. The descriptions of your different modes of travel to get home again are funny and remind me of how things change. Similarly, my parents periodically popped me and my little brother onto a Greyhound in the 70s when we went between mom’s house and dad’s house. There was an “overnight” stop of about 4 hours in some dumb little town somewhere, and in the filthy bus station we propped ourselves up on a bench or in a corner, and tried to keep an eye on the weirdos. We had no money for food or drink, so we didn’t get robbed.

    How long were you in Stuttgart? I’m so sorry the whole visit was unpleasant and unwelcoming. I can’t understand why people choose to behave that way. It sounds like the whole town was on the same wavelength though. Weird how this particular town needed the QR code, but other places in Germany were fine with your vaccination cards. Speaking of vaccinations, I finally got my booster Tuesday. My arm is still sore from it, which happened on my first shot. But no other symptoms, not even fatigue.

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    • I’ll probably get my booster after the first of the month when new insurance gets a foothold. The fatigue was the worst of it.
      More on the QR code next. I think that woman had one sideways and the rest of crew followed suit. The young lady we met that tried to help was probably more indicative of the population. The city was crowded with construction and traffic. Very hilly so walking for me was short term. Even with the oxygen, I found it difficult. We were there several days and then moved on. It was a different kind of world when we were kids. Too many things could have happened and I would not allowed that with my children. That is the only picture of my Opa where he had a smile. Someone must have paid him to smile. Thanks for the visit. Miss you. Will write today. Snail mail. 🙂

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  5. That sounds like a disappointing experience but there you are, looking up at the bright side and staying positive!

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    • I wouldn’t go back on a bet but it was a great lesson in contrast. Maybe Oma was admonishing me for not stopping by her old home. Kind of felt that way. 🙂 Hope you are doing well. I’ll be sending a note soon. They weren’t easy to find here. Sigh. Hug to you, Jan.

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  6. I love the photo of your grandparents, Marlene. I’ve never even heard of a “QR code.” You wonder how some of these places will stay in business if they are so strict. One would think having proof of vaccine and wearing your mask would suffice. This makes me not want to travel again…sigh. Remember when it used to be fun? Now it seems like one hassle after another. My heart skipped when I read “Another time they put me on the train with a tag as to where to get off. I got scared and got off too soon.” I’m glad you found your way! Thanks for sharing!

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    • I agree with you, Jill. We have been extremely careful so we had a negative covid test to get on the plane to come home. I wasn’t going to take any chances. This woman had one sideways when she realized we were Americans. I’m not sure who came before to put such a bad taste in her mouth that the pucker was obvious but I didn’t deserve any of it.
      I will say my heart skipped many beats thinking I had missed my stop because I saw a car like my parents. I often wonder what made them think they could raise kids. Neither one had a clue. Somehow, the 4 of us jerked ourselves up and survived into adulthood. Thanks for the visit, Jill.

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  7. What a disappointment. I’m sorry that happened. I just have a vaccine card from CDC with my booster on it and when I got the booster, someone there said the US was going for stuff on the phone as well–not sure how I’ll get that as I’m signed onto the Federal vaccine system with my employment email and password. I guess I’ll figure it out if it comes into play. I hope Frankfurt is better and the flight back is exceptional!

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    • I think with someone on the inside helping you out, you’ll get the information you need. I just got a comment from a blogger in Maine that says the QR codes are coming here too. Everyone there had them on their phones and they had to be scanned. Talk about 1984 and tracking. We have reached it in one fell swoop. I promise the rest of the trip is much brighter. Contrast is essential in life and Stuttgart was mine. Have a lovely weekend.

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  8. I have encountered un-necessary rudeness in Germany several times, but it was compensated for by the schnitzel, potato pancakes and spaetzle! Stuttgart put us in a room with no functioning heat. We complained and were upgraded to a two story suite with no functioning heat. They brought us a portable heater which was not sufficient and two slices of lemon cream pie. Who needed heat with that pie! It was the best pie I have ever had. I went and bought another slice. Hopefully the bumps will even out. I have most frequently encountered warmth and kindness in Germany, and of course, German Beer!! Prost!!

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    • I fully agree, Cindy. This was the only real lump in our road other than the blip in Aschaffenburg. They were so extremely opposite. At least in Aschaffenburg, we accomplished what we set out to do and then curtailed our visit. The next stop made up for Stuttgart by a long shot. 🙂 German beer is the best. I drink no other. 😉 Now about that pie…

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  9. That’s a poor decision on they’re part.

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  10. Evidently QR codes are coming soon for some of us here in the states, but not soon enough for your trip. Too bad the hotel manager sought to take his bad mood out on you. Hotels are supposed to be a service industry; lousy service I guess. Glad you are4 home safely

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    • My next post will go into QR codes more. I plan to write a letter to the company about this particular hotel. They were so inefficient that when my daughter had to take the car out of the parking structure they didn’t validate her parking ticket correctly and she had to back down a tightly curved ramp and go back up to the desk. She impressed me with her skill because she hates backing up. Thank goodness no one was behind us. I get regulations and we had qualified to enter the country and followed all mandates but this place was over the top. Where Aschaffenburg protested vaccines, Stuttgart thought even that wasn’t enough. I saved lots of money there. Thanks for stopping by, Lou.

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  11. I’m sorry to hear you had such an unpleasant time in Stuttgart. It sounds as though the people you encountered had a grudge against Americans.

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    • That’s the feeling I had immediately, Liz. Someone left a bad taste in their mouth. It’s their loss and we just moved on to more hospitable territory. Some people can just be that way and I can just move on. It was a very hilly city so a lot of walking wasn’t going to happen there. It’s like they are trying to cram 60 buildings in a 4 building lot. Almost as bad as LA. 🙂

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  12. I’m sorry your visit to Stuttgart wasn’t pleasant…some places just get you like that. I was interested in the QR debate in your comments too as we’ve had them to scan here in Australia for about 12 months. Even so, I’d have thought showing certificates would have been sufficient….if very tedious! Can’t quite imagine those strategies for sending you home as a child!

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    • Stuttgart was an anomaly. I feel sorry for them. I had never heard of QR codes until we got to Germany so it was a lesson for me. Very 1984 if you ask me but better than bringing the entire economy to a grinding halt. We have to find ways to keep people working and a roof over their heads. Shows you how advanced we are with all the squabbling going on here.
      My parents had no clue and during those years. People did that sort of thing. I was babysitting the babies all day at 7 and 8 and for neighbors! Oh my gosh, I wouldn’t let an 8 year old watch a child for 5 minutes these days. I’m lucky, something was watching out for me when I needed it. Thanks for stopping by, Pauleen.

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  13. I’m sorry Marlene! Fortunately, you saw many places and people who were kind and welcoming.

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  14. Nice Post. Looks good

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  15. Very uninviting and the worst of German hospitality. Some places I found to be like this even without the pandemic. They clearly did not understand the value of tourism.

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  16. My son sorted out a QR code for me, otherwise I wouldn’t have had a queue. Can’t think if anywhere I wouldn’t return too. Areas of some towns and cities I would avoid mind. Tenderloin area of San Francisco, Archway in London… I think Munich is gorgeous but found the people unfriendly. Amsterdam people were unhelpful, a lot if It’s not my job going on when asked a simple question! It’s just people, you can find that type anywhere

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    • We don’t have QR codes here either. There may be some mention of it but I see too many staging a rebellion over it. I wasn’t fond of Munich and chose not to go back this time. I agree with you that you can find that kind of person everywhere but overall, some places are just more welcoming than others. We wanted to see more countries but with lockdown, we had to do this one since I’m probably done with traveling. Thanks for stopping by, Cathy.

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  17. Whoa. That is disappointing. I wonder if this kind of behavior is accentuated with covid and all the fears. You got me curious about the city. It’s an “automotive” city and has very high marks for safety and being a good place to live!

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    • I don’t know who was giving the marks for livability in that city. I found it extremely congested on the roadways in every direction and they were building on every square inch because there was no room left. We planned to go to an automotive museum there but we told we would not be permitted in or even on the public transportation. I was shocked to say the least. I’ll be looking for places to send reviews. I would hate for anyone else to be subjected to that attitude. Thanks for the visit, Luanne.

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      • That seems so crazy to treat guests like that. In general, were Germans upset or complacent about mandates and the like?

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      • I don’t know that they were either upset or complacent. It seemed to me they were compliant for the greater good as I am. Wearing a mask when moving is extremely difficult for me even when using extra oxygen. I feel as though I can’t breathe but I certainly don’t want to contract or possibly pass on any virus or infection to anyone else. Of all people, I’ve got to be exceedingly careful and I understand that about other’s Up here where I’m living now, masks are rare as are vaccinations. Our hospital is said to be full. I appreciate compliance right now. We went into the hotel masked and vaccinated. There was no reason for that kind of treatment. There was a very peaceful demonstration in Aschaffenburg that I believe was over masks and vaccines. It was quite party like in their expression so I’m thinking they have the same diversity of opinion that we have here.

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  18. It sounds as if you have the right idea about dismissing the whole experience. However, I find that a very frank and detailed review on TripAdvisor often relieves my mind still further, whilst giving others a heads-up about what to expect from this ‘charming’ venue. In case you haven’t already used it, just go to tripadvisor.com and click on the Review button. It may ask you to sign in first. If you decide to go ahead, it would give you an opportunity to reward all the lovely places you’ve stayed, as well as be candid about the ones that were not so hot.

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    • It’s in the plan to leave as many reviews as possible. I’ll take a look at trip advisor. I plan to write to the corporate office of the Stuttgart hotel. I’m way behind on everything right now. Thanks for stopping by, Kate.

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  19. Oh dear, such a shame in Stuttgart. They certainly could have been far more empathetic. I wonder if policy had changed country wide from the time you arrived in Germany to the time you visited Stuttgart?
    I know here, it seems to change weekly. At first, we were able to just show a card we printed at our provincial healthcare site. But then, we too moved to the QR code system. Restaurants and shops are visited by agents and if they don’t ask for it or check, they are fined.
    Perhaps that was the case in Stuttgart. On the other hand, an explanation of such would have been nice. Orrrr, they’re just nasty, that’s possible too. But I want to think there were extenuating circumstances.
    Glad the next stop made up for it ! xK

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    • I agree with you on most counts, Kelly. There may have been extenuating circumstances. It was not country wide. Each area had it’s own take on how strict to be but but this seemed personal. Her energy set off my radar immediately. Every other place we visited before and after was so very kind in every way. I’m glad I don’t have to go back there for any reason. More to come here. I had to make it manageable bites. I’ve heard some talk about QR codes here but there are states that won’t abide by them or encourage vaccinations or masks. Like the one I’m in now. Sigh.

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  20. Well that city is keen to become a ghost town if it continues with it’s daft idea on where the tourist is going to like spending their dollars. Sounds though from some of your comments your next post is a town that loves making money and is helpful +++

    Here in New Zealand, we have QR codes galore – actually just about every building has one somewhere at the door, if you are entering any type of venue. Other than your own house, unless you have a business within. If you don’t have a gadget to scan in, you must fill out a hard copy…
    And then we also have machines or people to check you have a vaccine pass – unless a business isn’t using one like an essential service. There are a small number of people who haven’t taken up the covid-vax and don’t have an exemption (which are hard to get) and then they are more restricted all over… children under 11 are now just being given the vax.

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    • I’m thinking that town doesn’t want tourists because there are already too many people there and they just don’t care. I don’t care for the scanning of people as it reeks of the Orwellian novel 1984 but I believe in doing what’s right for the greater good. What ever it takes to get this thing under control. Now! Thanks for stopping by, Catherine.

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  21. I’m so sorry you had to forego Friedrichshafen. The story of how you traveled as a child is fascinating! When do you fly back home?

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    • I posted about already flying home and continuing the travel part after. We came home Jan 4 and it’s been a race ever since. Long story. Having a hard time keeping up. Things are changing. Not sure I can write about it.

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      • Thank you for the update, Marlene. I hope all is well. Where are you living?

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      • At 6300 ft in the AZ mountains 3 hours NE of Phoenix.

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      • 6,300 feet? Can you even breathe? That’s higher than Mount Washington, the highest mountain here in New England.

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      • Where my old house is a few miles up the road is at 7200. I lived there 12 years before I left and had not planned to come back. I need oxygen up here and will probably need it 24/7 once I get to see the pulmonologist. I’m very fuzzy headed and quite tippy. It’s just crazy to be here but I can afford the place I’m living in and it has 2 bedrooms so I’ll have a sewing area. You do what you have to do sometimes.

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      • Yes, you do what you have to do! I always look at the plusses, and 6,300 is better than 7,200. Best to you, Marlene!

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      • Are you happy, and do you like it there? Are you still with your daughter? I care…

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      • My daughter is back in Portland where her job is. Happiness is a choice I make every day. I can afford it here. Portland has gone off the charts and nothing was available. The wait lists are long everywhere. I was lucky to get this place because they are being snapped up as soon as they are empty. Getting my things here will be the next challenge. You can’t imagine the prices in that industry. I could start from scratch cheaper.

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      • Sheesh!!!

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  22. Marlene, what trouble for you with the QR codes and passes not working for you – this is something that surely must be looked at as travel expands once again. It can’t have been easy for you at all. I’ve only flown into Stuggart and went straight on to Tubingen … a very friendly and beautiful place. I hope you’re settling back well and things are working out okay for you. Take care. xx

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  23. Ugh. So sorry to hear this negative experience. Maddening and frustrating. I hope the rest of the trip goes better. 🙏🤞💙 Stay safe!!!

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    • Thanks, Pam. I was shocked at the behavior of hotel staff. Not sure what kind of experience they had that set that off but we rebounded as I posted today. 🙂 Doing my best to stay safe here in AZ. They see things differently too. Snail mail posted today.

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